It strikes me, after pondering this as I swam my laps, that this is PRECISELY why the country is so divided.
One side sees opportunity everywhere, and assumes the world is a meritocracy.
The other side sees the barriers, often invisible but always endemic, that prevent all people from achieving their potential with equal effort. However, the "awakened," the "woke" are not forceful enough to awaken the "sleeping." It is considered rude to discuss "politics" and the right has defined any discussion of inequality or systemic racism as "political." The white-privileged do not want to be challenged on their white privilege. They do not want to hear that their successes, whatever they are, are due to anything other than meritocracy.
It's like Clarence Thomas. He denies that he benefited in any way from Affirmative Action, yet his early clerking jobs, his admission to lawschool, and his appointment to the Supreme Court were all, to a great measure, due to his race. He has blinders on.